Common Mistakes on Dating Sites: Are You Guilty?


By Top10BestDatingSites Staff

Top 10 Worst Things to Say to Someone on an Online Dating Site

Looking for love? While no one has cracked the secrets of attracting the perfect mate right away, there are a few statements you should definitely avoid if you don't want to wind up old and alone.

1: "I never use these sites normally."

It's the 21st century. Dating sites are no longer the shameful secret of your browser history; they're a culturally and commercially accepted way of finding someone uniquely suited to you. Don't act like you're slumming when you join their ranks.

2: "My last girlfriend was a complete ***** ****** who ******* **** and **********."

Insulting your exes is never a good way to impress someone new, especially if you do it in a racist, sexist or vulgar way. You send the impression that you're an angry person who will degenerate into insults as soon as you hit a rough patch in your relationship.

3: "I guess I'm pretty cute. I mean, all my friends say that I look like Jennifer Lawrence, but I don't know. My lips are way too big and luscious."

False modesty is no one's friend, especially when it's obvious that you're just fishing for compliments. If you demand validation before you've even met face to face, what will your actual relationship look like?

4: "I like going out, but I also enjoy staying in with a blanket and some good DVDs."

This describes at least 99 percent of the population. Try to avoid clich?s that will also appear on dozens of other profiles.

5: "My last six relationships all ended horribly. I'm starting to think I'll die alone.... lol. :)"

While it's okay to be self-deprecating about your lack of luck in the romance department, you don't want to overdo it, especially if your past is long and sordid. Emoticons don't actually negate whatever statements came before them.

6: "I hate dogs."

Ever heard the saying about attracting more flies with honey? Your soul mate might be a dog lover. Don't start limiting your chances at love before they even begin.

7: "I backpacked through Europe last summer. It was really gorgeous, but I had to leave early because of passport issues, so then I went to Asia. Asia is so weird! I liked it, though, especially the temples in China. Speaking of China, if you've never seen the Great Wall, O.M.G. What a sight. I'm thinking about going to Australia next. I get seasick pretty easily, so I'll probably fly instead of taking a ferry, but I'm really looking forward to seeing the mountains..."

Slow down. This is the kind of thing you discuss over coffee when talking about mutual life experiences, not what you should put in a profile. Beware of the over-share.

8: "If you're a liberal, just jump off a cliff, because I don't want you."

Dating sites aren't the place for sensitive topics like politics, religion, social justice, et cetera. Even if you feel strongly about a particularly issue, that kind of talk is better left for in-person debates.

9: "__________ and __________ need not apply."

You aren't living in a reality show where nubile young women compete for your affection. Don't use language that implies the other person needs to win, earn or deserve your notice through various requirements.

10: "I'm a kind, intelligent person just hoping to meet that special someone."

While technically inoffensive, this is one of the worst things you can say on an online dating site. Everyone considers themselves a kind, intelligent person. Everyone on a dating site wants to meet someone. This kind of statement is so bland and generic that you might as well not post anything at all.

About Top10BestDatingSites Staff

The Top 10 Best Dating Sites staff are your guides to the world of online dating websites and services. The team navigates the world of online dating and share their findings to help readers find online dating success. Our team includes dating experts Laurel House, Ken Solin, James Preece, Erika Ettin, Nida Sea, Vanae Tran, Carmelia Ray and many more talented writers. Top 10 Best Dating Sites staff have extensive first-hand experience in: signing up for and using various online dating sites; researching the ever-growing online dating market; and copywriting and editing for various online and print publications about online dating.


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