6 Approaches to Flirting with Canadians Online


By Top10BestDatingSites Staff

Dating sites are filled with single ladies. And if you’re signed up to one of these sites, then you probably know it’s not the easiest thing to grab a gal’s attention online. Here are 6 simple steps you must follow to better your chances of getting noticed and getting a date.

1. Start Flirting Early

Just like the wink or smile from across the bar, you can begin flirting before you’ve even started talking on an online dating website. Top flirting choices like Zoosk allow you to send winks and flirts ahead of your initial greeting, so you can gauge interest. Does she send back a flirty wink in return? If so, you’re in with a fair chance of receiving her attention.

2. Do your Research

Profiles are there for a reason, and can be key in getting a positive response from your first message to a woman online. The information she has put in her profile is what she wants a man to know about her before getting started. She’s likely to be a lot more impressed by a targeted question about something you know she’s interested in rather than something vague. Think “I see you like to dance, what kind of music are you into?” versus “What activities do you like doing?” Websites like Loveaholics have dating apps too, so you can check the profile on the go if you’re surprised by a new message from someone you like the look of, and you’re never caught off guard.

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3. Find Common Ground

Another benefit to checking a ladies profile before you begin flirting is that you can find things you have in common. Killing two birds with one stone, you can then show her that you have lots to talk about at the same time as making it clear you’ve taken the time to check out her profile. In terms of lifestyle choices and factual information, this can save you wasting your time if for example you have kids and she doesn’t want any, or you hate smoking and she smokes daily. We love the feature at Match which allows you to mark choices like this as ‘Deal Breakers’ so you don’t get unsuitable options in the search results.

4. Make it Personal

There are millions of single ladies at the top Canadian dating websites, and it can be tempting to copy and paste a message about yourself to practically everyone who comes up on your match feed or search results. We guarantee this is not the way to attract the girl of your dreams, and that women can tell when we’re being served a recycled first message. Rather than copying paragraphs of information about yourself and what you’re looking for, why not try for something short and sweet, perhaps with a question which is clearly aimed at the girl uniquely, and save the lengthy explanation of your dating history and your perfect woman for a later chat, perhaps by webcam when the time comes.

5. Use Humor (But Not Too Much)

Everyone likes to laugh, and it’s lovely to show you’ve got a bit of personality when flirting. Try to strike a balance between a bit of banter and yet still showing you can have a real conversation, too. Humor when flirting is a great ice breaker, you could even start off with the question from a joke, leaving her to guess the punchline or ask you for the reveal. Remember our advice from above, keep it personal. If you share a love of a sports team for example, why not include a scathing comment about your biggest rivals, along with an invite to look at your photos to show you taking part in the game, proving your common ground.

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6. Compliment Her (But Not Too Much!)

There’s another flirting balance to be found when giving a girl a compliment when online dating. Try to avoid clichéd greetings like “Hey gorgeous” which are bound to be met with rolled eyes. In general, a compliment will be much better received if the conversation has already started, and it isn’t your attempt at an opener. “I just had to message you and say you have beautiful eyes” doesn’t work often, we assure you. If you’re replying to a message that she sent you could tell her that she made you laugh out loud, or that you were so happy to get her message, before you jump in with comments about physical appearance which can come later when they feel more natural.

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The Top 10 Best Dating Sites staff are your guides to the world of online dating websites and services. The team navigates the world of online dating and share their findings to help readers find online dating success. Our team includes dating experts Laurel House, Ken Solin, James Preece, Erika Ettin, Nida Sea, Vanae Tran, Carmelia Ray and many more talented writers. Top 10 Best Dating Sites staff have extensive first-hand experience in: signing up for and using various online dating sites; researching the ever-growing online dating market; and copywriting and editing for various online and print publications about online dating.


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